The term "time-waster" is sort of an umbrella term for lots of douchebag behavior, including but not limited to: wasting someone's time with promises for meeting but never intending to and wasting someone's time for wank purposes. But that sounds so much more benign than it actually is. This is deliberate manipulation for sexual purposes... sounds a bit like rape, doesn't it? Maybe not quite that severe but I definitely see it as destructive, manipulative, abusive, selfish, and exploitive.
Women are aware that men like this are out there. They talk all the time about how annoyed they are that they got "duped" again by some asshole that wasted their night only to not live up to their promises. Often women will try to "feel out" the situation hoping to catch the wanker before he gets to finish, thereby ruining his good time.
I, for one, as completely disgusted with this behavior. It's one thing if you seek out chatrooms where two people meet with the same agenda, it's something entirely else if you are using someone's time to beat your pud. Shame on you, reader, if you have done this to anyone.
I'm so tired of this behavior that I'm trigger happer. I rip into anyone speaking even hypothetically about sex. It's unfortunate, but true. I just don't trust men online anymore until they prove themselves to not be an asshole.
I can't tell you how many times I got used over the years on collarme because I was too naive to understand what was going on. I'd get a message for a guy with no profile or half a profile looking to "talk" and inevitably the discussion would lead to likes and dislikes (the real wankers usually looking to skip right to the end). This would just as quickly lead to a sudden disappearance act or a "I've got to go but I'll talk to you soon" (reminiscent of "I'll call you"). And that would be it. He'd disappear, maybe even block me. And while I was attempting to open up to this person I thought was seeking my conversation, he was using me for a good time. So I think quite fairly I've become quite a bit guarded.
I laid into a guy recently for talking about male orgasm (Tantric teachings) with me, partially because he told me something I already know as if he was teaching me something (which irritates the hell out of me), but mostly because he said that not ejaculating was going to make my partner "more submissive" and that he's want to "provide me with ritual oral" every morning. DID I OR DID I NOT make it clear in MANY posts thus far that I do NOT agree with the FLR orgasm denial bullshit? DID I OR DID I NOT mention that I don't think that sex has ANYTHING to do with being in charge? So either he didn't bother to read my entire blog or he was looking to start a conversation about sex with me. This sends up flaming red flags, and I admittedly blasted him... probably unnecessarily. Still he was out of line to assume I didn't know what he knew. That's hubris, and I won't have it.
For the record, I don't want sex every day. I want it when I want it.... which varies and is perhaps more than the average but by no means as often as an "everyday ritual". Good grief. Did I not say I don't want a regimented lifestyle? Ya know, reader, it would be wise to brush up on what I have talked about in the past to not piss me off in email.... just a thought.
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