Broken: This wounded creature has had some trauma in his background whether it be child abuse or the witnessing of a parent being abused and has no idea what a normal relationship should look like. He's not necessarily easy to spot because if he's got a normal job he's learned at least how to hide all this stuff inside. He's turned to bdsm to deal with his problems because for some reason he feels he needs to be punished for something or that he's somehow inherently bad. Well, not dealing with all that crap going on inside has made him twisted and potentially abusive. Watch out: toxic!
Horny: This guy is willing to try anything that will get him laid. He may not be a bad person but he's certainly not looking for a long term relationship. He wants wham bam thank you ma'am. Perhaps he may think that kink will get him the EZ-Pass to cheap hookups with no investment of time and money. He's thinking this is a step up from hooker and less expensive.
Fapper: This one is only on the site to get enough conversation or profiles in to wank. He's the notorious "time waster" that is probably married and is looking for something other than regular pr0n to wank to. He wants to talk about kink right away and that's how you can usually spot him. He doesn't care what you do or what your name is. He wants to get right to words that he can pound his pud to.
Spammer: This guy can't get anyone's attention so he spams every single domme on online in the hopes of getting a reply. He's also probably a Fapper.
Troll: This guy is on the site to attack people. He gets his kicks by verbally attacking random people he disagrees with and hoping he can start a fight. He revels in causing aggravation. You see this type all over the Internet. If it weren't collarme it would be digg or some other site. I seriously doubt he discriminates. He just wants a place to vent misplaced rage. He also comes in "I just gotta tell you something" flavor and then blocks you or "User profile is hidden" flavor. Advice: don't feed the trolls by replying. It only encourages them.
No Show: We've all done it once. Gotten stood up by some a-hole that either doesn't have a balls or really just a Fapper that was willing to promise the moon to get fap material. I'm right there with ya. I went to a restaurant and waited and waited and waited... and finally ordered dinner for one. There's no real way to prevent this only to weed them out as soon as possible before you get hurt.
Healthy Kinkster: He may be into kink but it doesn't rule his life. He's on the site to find love with a bit of adventure. He just doesn't want to be tied down with the virginal, submissive, vanilla girl that thinks sex toys are gross. He's got a life, that he's more than likely dominant in, and is otherwise normal and functional. Kink for him is more about keeping the sex life spicy than a lifestyle choice. Only problem with this guy is that he only wants to be sub in the bedroom.
True Submissive: He's gentle soul. He's probably been given a really hard time in life for not conforming to the status quo or faked it long enough and is ready to be himself. He looks at women with awe not predatory lust. He wants to care for his partner like the Goddess she is. He marvels at her strength and beauty. He truly is able to love selflessly. He wants to be second in command not just in the bedroom but in the relationship. (WHERE ARE YOU!?!)
Any suggestions for more types?
That sounds about right - I'd like to think of myself as a 'True Submissive' who is sincere and fully understands his true place in service and obedience to women.
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I think you have the demeanor for it, john. It's hard to say without meeting you.
ReplyDeleteThanks. Maybe we should meet!
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I think I am the first two and the last two.
ReplyDeleteno, john, you're not a True Submissive. But jay is. ;)
ReplyDelete@Anon What exactly would be the goal for you then? It seems that each of those types have conflicting goals.
ReplyDelete@Dommebrarian Why do you say that john is not a True Submissive? Not arguing one way or the other; just looking for more information than I have.
The goal would be to perfect the true submissive in me. I am just not flawless (yet), so I found some of your other types in me as well.
ReplyDeleteYou really got it. That one jerk that comes out of nowhere with a copy-paste list of things he wants done and what he would let be done to him, without bothering to ask for a name or even if it's appropriate to message at all. The jerk that obviously hasn't bothered to read your profile that states how you don't appreciate laundry lists of demands! Augh!
ReplyDelete@Lianna Yep. I feel your pain.
ReplyDeleteYou've got everything upside down and it seems you have no idea what life is like for what you call a "true submissive."
ReplyDeleteNot many guys are - and those that are shut up about it because being submissive equals having NO love life.
Believe me it's a trillion times easier to be a dominant woman than it is to be a male sub - and though there might not be many true submissives among men we outnumber the true female dommes by far. In fact true dommes are so rare that I'm not sure I've ever encountered one - even counting the myriads of so called dommes online.
@Michael Depends on what you mean by no love life and what the behavior of the supposed submissive is. If you come at women with bitter frustration just waiting to be disappointed and lashing out at every woman available just because your needs aren't being fulfilled then you will drive every decent woman away from you and any real domme won't give you the time of day. That said, there's also the matter of not knowing what your league is. It may not be the case with you, but with many men it is. If you're a scabby little troll and you've been chasing airbrushed centerfolds when you get shot down... you deserve what you get. You have no right to blame all women for your inability to be realistic about your options.
ReplyDeleteYes, it is always easier for someone in this culture to be aggressive and assertive. We are a warrior culture. I don't deny that one bit. In fact, I have said many times that a truly submissive male being true to himself is the most courageous simply because he will not be accepted by many. I do, however, think that the more men that "come out" as submissive the easier it will be for masculinity to be redefined with a much broader view.
Well - most rich, powerful guys have no problem seducing women that would be completely out of their league if it wasn't for the power and the money.
ReplyDeleteThere is no such thing as out of a dominant guy's league.
Butt-ugly, utterly uncharming players seduce woman just by their rudeness it seems.
That's because some women spend more time in front of the mirror instead of in front of their school books and don't really have anything else to offer. Guys that "buy" (and it is buying) young, pretty women aren't interested in their conversation. They want a body to use... and the way to get it is to provide monetary compensation. It's prostitution basically... sans street walking.
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